ADDICTIONS they are many of them, food, alcohol, chocolate, gym and then the biggest one that breaks up relationships PORN.
PORN has become a part of men’s daily activities and don’t say “I don’t watch porn” if you do!  Also women can be addicted to porn and affects relationship with many break downs.
When a man or woman is addicted to PORN and it becomes a daily activity for him or her, it affects the brain and their outlook on society. It kills their sexual desire and this causes a major issue in the bedroom as he can’t get HARD, not hard not happening or she is not aroused by his touch. Areas that affect a PORN addict.

  • Depression
  • Erectile dysfunction
  • Performance anxiety
  • Voyeurism
  • Life becomes boring
  • Anger
  • Violence
  • Secrecy in relationships
  • Living a double life
  • Guilty
  • Shame
  • Loss of life
  • Blame others

 
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My mind also goes to the area of Domestic Violence and is PORN an area that causes the start of arguments and violence? My stepsister was a victim of D.V. her ex-partner shot her dead. He made her do things to please him sexually and NO man has the right to ask for what he did. I would and never will give what he asked her to do. We come to that word SUBMISSIVE, not in my lifetime.
Porn can absorb time and addicts spend hours watching porn. Like most additions we get to the stage where we can’t get enough or that rush and then aggressive porn or bestiality (animal porn).
So where does this porn addiction start?
In 2018 with the internet we can access whatever we want, wherever we are anytime of the day.
Young boys today are watching PORN at 10 years old, WTF, what is happen. They then have a sex with a young girl some 10 or 13 and expect them to perform like a PORN star. Young girls are having anal sex so they won’t lose their virginity or oral sex as boy’s force them to do IT!
I remember when I was in my early 20’s asked to watch some porn and a threesome, well that is for me to know if I did or not! Will tell you in the last sentence.
All my life I have been a highly sexual woman, I enjoy the touching of my lover’s skin, the smell of sex, the thrill of pleasure, communication of desire and love.
Being a young lady in my 20’s sex was a pleasure with my lover anytime of the day in the kitchen, car park, lift, parks, in the pool and of course the bedroom.

WHY PORN and not sex with ME?
My husband and I meet on RSVP online and we feel hard for each other, this was in 2007. We moved in together within 6 months and married 2 years later. We had a healthy sexual relationship and zest for adventures and life.
When I discovered about 3 years ago my husband has an addiction to PORN, I confronted him about this. We even had counselling about it and he said “that is what men do”. Well if that is what men do to get turned on, fine and dandy. Why STOP having sex with a sexy lady that is willing and wanting?
Is this why women or men have affairs, as their partner is busy wanking with PORN?
In our marriage the SEX stopped, as his way of punishing me. Verbal abuse and many words said to break my heart and soul. My self-esteem disappeared and I felt I was worthless and stopped caring for myself.  
Why because he got caught out, he was then shamed and guilty. This didn’t stop him, he would walk away while watching a movie and be gone for a long while in his study. Watching PORN to get his fix of his addition. Use to make me sick in the stomach.
Even when I would walk around the house is sexy under garments or a sarong with nothing else, hoping my husband would say “Come here baby” it didn’t happen.
What upsets me the most is that “it is all my fault” the marriage broke down.
Interesting many of my friends have said to me do you hear how to talks to you? I was in love and didn’t see the pot holes. I had given 7 years to this marriage and we had a passionate sexual relationship.
So I moved into the spare room, my sanctuary where I surround myself with items that make me smile and in my happy place.
THEN I HAD AN AFFAIR….. With myself, regained my confidence and reinvented myself.
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I look after my body with exercise, eat healthy, present myself with style and my business is the beauty profession, so no wrinkled, fat and a lounge lizard lady here!
So in 2018 when we are single and on that first or second date. Do we ask the question “Are you a porn addict?” There would not be a third date.
My leaving words are to those affected by PORN either an addict or your partner. We all have a choice to change in our life and help is available, reach out and ask or talk to a friend.
PORN ADDICTION IS POISON THAT IS KILLING PEOPLE AND RELATIONSHIP.
This video explains how the brain is affected by porn https://youtu.be/wSF82AwSDiU
Agree or disagree with me, PORN is a major issue today and it is destroying families.
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Debbie Majella Nolan
Founder Designer Women Australia and launching “REINVENT YOURSELF” Workshop for Women. www.designerwomenaustralia.com.au
 
 
 
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